Respect Macha !

Glad that many are immediately (actively) commenting and exchanging views.
See, I have made uncountable number of friends through this blog. In fact, the reason there are some people reading this blog is because many of you made the huge effort to tell your friends about it. I’ve seen the links been copied and pasted throughout Facebook, some introduced it verbally, and some even went one step further by writing about it in your blog.
I’ve also met an unbelievable amount of young guys and girls, who regard me as their ‘anne'(brother), or a ‘macha’. Although I’m not a big fan of being called ‘anne’ by the chicks out there (and some of this chicks are awesome), nevertheless we’ll have to accept our fate. The guys on the other hand, regard me as their ‘brother’, and with all the guys I’ve spoken and met, I’ve forged good relationships.
As much as I have immense respect for them, they have the same amount of respect towards me. The same goes for the girls. How do you command respect from someone? It is such a difficult thing nowadays, and even amongst my friends, we’ve a lot of young guys in the group, and some of them don’t even respect the ‘elders’, or so you can call it.
This topic is dedicated to everyone on how you can command respect from someone who is much younger than you. It is an extremely important part in your life, because when many people look up to you as a role model, it also indirectly means how much worth your life had been to the others. I see many a time the elders try to be the ‘shit’, thus the cursing and disrespect by the youngsters.
I think these are the important ones.
Rule No 1: Stop trying to be the ‘shit’.
The funny thing about the older guys is that they themselves are mostly fucked up, and then they try to advice people who are younger than them. Say for an example, most of the ‘machas’ usually holds a beer bottle, and then advice the younger ones:
” Dei, ithe ellam kudike kudathe,velethereven”
” Dei, do not drink all this, I will beat you”
Do you really think the younger ones would listen? They would just mutter ‘lame fuck’ under their breath and nod their head in agreement with you. Do not try to be the ‘shit’, like you’ve seen it all and done it all, and brag all about it to them.
I see some of this guys, never before involved perhaps in any fight , advising as below:
” Dei, sandeki ellam pogathe. Pathale na epedi irukene, veena ayireve ena mathiri”
” Dei, do not go for fight, see my condition, you’ll be as worst as me’
This usually comes from wannabes who had never fought their whole life.
I won’t be able to stop smiling when I hear this from some lamer out there, even some had been my elders who advised me once upon a time. When we know this are ‘kose kavadis'(no influence), how can we respect them? To top it all, to advice someone as small as a mice like me not to fight, there is no logic in it, isn’t it? I just can’t fight even if I want to la!
Rule No 2: Respect in, respect out.
This is the universal rule of commanding respect from everyone. Respect them for what they’re, and in return they would respect you. The thing about people nowadays, especially the elder ones is that they think they can rule by fear.
See, respect and fear are two separate things. If you’re feared, then you have no real values, people just fear you thus they won’t seek your companion and avoid you. But when you’re respected, people would always seek your companion and love you. That’s the difference, I’m sure you want to be respected instead.
Some elder ones nowadays do not respect the young ones at all; they use foul languages towards them, rag and bully them, in a word, being very disrespectful towards them. You should always treat someone as how you want to be treated, so no matter how young he is than you, you should always refer him with respect. This will instill good values about you to him, but don’t try to overdo it, and then they might think you’re nerd and start ‘riding’ you instead.
Maintain your distance, and always know where you stand.
Rule No 3: I’m the gangster or the man
This is one of the lamest shit, even I got cheated by it once upon a time.  Thinking of it now, it’s kind of a good experience though. See, even if you’re a highly influenced gangster, do not try to show off. As a matter of fact, as far as I’ve seen, people who are highly influenced in crime do not really show off about themselves. So, you really can fuck off and nobody is going to care a shit even if you’ve been in and out of the jail.
Showing off about yourself is one of the lamest things you can do to attract people. It’s not only about being a gangster; say you have a fantastic job. Make sure to be humble about yourself.
The feelings of respecting you as the ‘man’ should come without any influence from your side. They should automatically regard you as ‘someone'; remember, self praise is an international disgrace.
Rule No 4: Talk facts and be the guide
The most important of them all.
If you can talk and feel like advising them, then guide them the right way. And stop pulling off this shit like asking them not to smoke or not to drink. No one is ever going to listen to you when you say such things to them, because of the simple reason the world is such now that bad vices has became part of the things youngsters get influenced with. Girls are no exception to this either. When an intoxicated girl wears a tight skirt and dances in front of a few guys, you won’t be able to stop her by simply advising her against it. Some of them need to know it by experience.
But, when she is fucked by a few and got pregnant by whose-father-even-she-don’t-know, then she may listen. It is how the world is nowadays. The same goes for this young ones, do not try to be hero by advising them against what they feel like doing.
The curiosity part during growing up years is very strong, I’m sure all of you know it by heart. Thus the reason for us to be influenced by bad habits, but instead of advising them against it, try to put in some logics what can be done or what should they do about it.
Talk to them gradually about what is good and what is not, and leave the choice to them. When they’re adult enough, they would be able to grasp the meaning, or one day when they’ve gone through some hard times, they would remember your advice and follow it. Do not bring them to the ‘todi’ shop, and while you gulp all those intoxicating drinks, with a cigarette on your mouth, advice them not to smoke and drink. That’s like being a fucking hypocrite isn’t it? I’ve seen many guys, even some of my friends doing it. What are you trying to achieve by doing so?
Iven periyeh junni… Iveneh ore kudikareh punde, iven nambele kudike vena soldran.
“He himself is a drunkard, and he expects us to follow him, asshole”
Above will be the thing in their mind while you’re advising them.
Youngsters should be advised gradually, put them and give them logics behind what they should do and what they should not. If they’ve indeed start drinking, talk to them about what they should do and what they should not when they drink. Give them a logical reason behind what you’re saying, and when they seek your help, guide them accordingly, do not push them too hard, but slowly, let them flow like a river, according to their own capabilities.
Despite all of the above, if they still do not respect you, then sooner or later they will get whacked out by someone else out there, so just move on.
For wanting of space, I want to drag this no more. But I’m sure you’ve got an idea of what I’m talking about. That my friends; in my personal opinion, if practiced, will command you respect and love that you long for among your circle of friends. If you think there are other things, please add, it will be useful for everyone out there. I’m sure though, many of the young ones would agree with me.
Respect, Macha style.

Glad that many are immediately (actively) commenting and exchanging views. My replies will sometimes be late, understandably. The examples given below may refer to gangsters and crime, but it is just an example and replacement of reference should be done according to what you feel is right in your own point of view.

See, I have made uncountable number of friends through this blog. In fact, the reason there are some people reading this blog is because many of you made the huge effort to tell your friends about it. I’ve seen the links been copied and pasted throughout Facebook, some introduced it verbally, and some even went one step further by writing about it in your blog.

I’ve also met an unbelievable amount of young guys and girls, who regard me as their ‘anne'(brother), or a ‘macha’. Although I’m not a big fan of being called ‘anne‘ by the chicks out there (and some of this chicks are awesome), nevertheless we’ll have to accept our fate. The guys on the other hand, regard me as their ‘brother’, and with all the guys I’ve spoken and met, I’ve forged good relationships.

Some of the mutual respects gained.Names blacked out due to privacy.

As much as I have immense respect for them, they have the same amount of respect towards me. The same goes for the girls. How do you command respect from someone? It is such a difficult thing nowadays, and even amongst my friends, we’ve a lot of young guys in the group, and some of them don’t even respect the ‘elders’, or so you can call it.

This topic is dedicated to everyone on how you can command respect from someone who is much younger than you. It is an extremely important part in your life, because when many people look up to you as a role model, it also indirectly means how much worth your life had been to the others. I see many a time the elders try to be the ‘shit‘, thus the cursing and disrespect by the youngsters.

I think these are the important ones.

Rule No 1: Stop trying to be the ‘shit‘.

The funny thing about the older guys is that they themselves are mostly fucked up, and then they try to advice people who are younger than them. Say for an example, most of the ‘machas‘ usually holds a beer bottle, and then advice the younger ones:

” Dei, ithe ellam kudike kudathe,velethereven”

” Dei, do not drink all this, I will beat you”

Do you really think the younger ones would listen? They would just mutter ‘lame fuck‘ under their breath and nod their head in agreement with you. Do not try to be the ‘shit‘, like you’ve seen it all and done it all, and brag all about it to them.

A good example of how one would look like to the youngsters if they try to be  the ‘shit’.

I see some of this guys, never before involved perhaps in any fight , advising as below:

” Dei, sandeki ellam pogathe. Pathale na epedi irukene, veena ayireve ena mathiri”

” Dei, do not go for fight, see my condition, you’ll be as worst as me’

This usually comes from wannabes who had never fought their whole life. I won’t be able to stop having a mirthful laugh when I hear this from some self-proclaimed gangsters out there, even some had been my elders who advised me once upon a time. When we know this are ‘kose kavadis’(no influence), how can we respect them? To top it all, to advice someone as small as  mice like me not to fight, there is no logic in it, isn’t it? I just can’t fight even if I want to la!

Rule No 2: Respect in, respect out.

This is the universal rule of commanding respect from everyone. Respect them for what they’re, and in return they would respect you. The thing about people nowadays, especially the elder ones is that they think they can rule by fear.

See, respect and fear are two separate things. If you’re feared, then you have no real values, people just fear you thus they won’t seek your companion and avoid you. But when you’re respected, people would always seek your companion and love you. That’s the difference, I’m sure you want to be respected instead.

Some elder ones nowadays do not respect the young ones at all; they use foul languages towards them, rag and bully them, in a word, being very disrespectful towards them. You should always treat someone as how you want to be treated, so no matter how young he is than you, you should always refer him with respect. If needed be, go down to their level and show them you’re just one of them. This will instill good values about you to him, but don’t try to overdo it, for they might think you’re nerd and start ‘riding’ you instead.

Maintain your distance, and always know where you stand.

Rule No 3: I’m the gangster or the man

This is one of the lamest shit, even I got cheated by it once upon a time.  Thinking of it now, it’s kind of a good experience though. See, even if you’re a highly influenced gangster, do not try to show off. As a matter of fact, as far as I’ve seen, people who are highly influenced in crime do not really show off about themselves. So, you really can fuck off and nobody is going to care a shit even if you’ve been in and out of the jail. Instead, always do something that they can really be proud of referring to your name.  Maybe like if you’ve become an artist or a singer.

Even when you’re famous,showing off about yourself is one of the lamest things you can do to attract people. It’s not only about being a gangster; say you have a fantastic job. Make sure to be humble about yourself.

The feelings of respecting you as the ‘man’ should come without any influence from your side. They should automatically regard you as ‘someone'; remember, self praise is an international disgrace.

Rule No 4: Talk facts and be the guide

The most important of them all.

If you can talk and feel like advising them, then guide them the right way. And stop pulling off this shit like asking them not to smoke or not to drink. No one is ever going to listen to you when you say such things to them, because of the simple reason the world is such now that bad vices has became part of the things youngsters get influenced with. Girls are no exception to this either. When an intoxicated girl wears a tight skirt and dances in front of a few guys, you won’t be able to stop her by simply advising her against it. Some of them need to know it by experience.

But, when she is fucked by a few and got pregnant by whose-father-even-she-don’t-know, then she may listen. It is how the world is nowadays. The same goes for this young ones, do not try to be a hero by advising them against what they feel like doing.

The curiosity part during growing up years is very strong, I’m sure all of you know it by heart. Thus the reason for us to be influenced by bad habits, but instead of advising them against it, try to put in some logics what can be done or what should they do about it.

Talk to them gradually about what is good and what is not, and leave the choice to them. When they’re adult enough, they would be able to grasp the meaning, or one day when they’ve gone through some hard times, they would remember your advice and follow it. Do not bring them to the ‘todi‘ shop, and while you gulp all those intoxicating drinks, with a cigarette on your mouth, advice them not to smoke and drink. That’s like being a fucking hypocrite isn’t it? I’ve seen many guys, even some of my friends doing it. What are you trying to achieve by doing so?

“Iven periyeh junni… Iveneh ore kudikareh punde, iven nambele kudike vena soldran.”

“He himself is a drunkard, and he expects us to follow him, asshole”

Above will be the thing in their mind while you’re advising them.

Youngsters should be advised gradually, put them and give them logics behind what they should do and what they should not. If they’ve indeed start drinking, talk to them about what they should do and what they should not when they drink. Give them a logical reason behind what you’re saying, and when they seek your help, guide them accordingly, do not push them too hard, but slowly, let them flow like a river, according to their own capabilities.

Despite all of the above, if they still do not respect you, then sooner or later they will get whacked out by someone else out there, so just move on.

Below video is just for fun(in Tamil) of how you can drink while respecting the elders at the same time(taken in Kerala, India). I said for fun, please look up your dictionary before you start to fuck up in my comment section. I was in a boat, so don’t worry, I did not drive either.

For wanting of space, I want to drag this no more. But I’m sure you’ve got an idea of what I’m talking about. That my friends; in my personal opinion, if practiced, will command you respect and love that you long for among your circle of friends. If you think there are other things, please add, it will be useful for everyone out there. I’m sure though, many of the young ones would agree with me of how they want to be treated.

Respect, get it Macha , M1 style.


17 comments to Respect Macha !

  • lizard

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    cheap and best… miss brotha vasu macha….should visit him soon…

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    Savadi-kapp post la bro! This is what we want. Bring it more!;)

    p/s: but, antha last video enakku rombeh pidichirukku..;)

  • Dhurga

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    Durai, I’m not going to call you Anne ;). It’s 8 in the morning (Aus time) and I’m here with my coffee!!! In essence, if you want respect, you’ll have to walk the talk! Very good post and the video is tooooo good. Using the towel to drink respectfully is a kai vantha kalai (pardon my tamil) and you my friend have mastered it well!! =)

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    Good one, i have always hated both giving and receiving advices. My point is, an individual should be given the opportunity to learn anything on his/her own accord. There is no point preaching about goodness and godliness to someone who is least interested in it, at least for now. There’s saying, ‘Ask and it will be given to you; seek and you will find’ and another personal fave of mine, when the student is ready the master appears. Only when i am ready to receive any advices, i will be able to listen and eventually take it and only then it will be futile. Mathepadi enna porutha varaikum advise panna, seviden kaathele sanggu uthere maari thaan.

  • surenkl

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    king fisher…..uhhhmmm….’straang’ one huh bro???

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    well said brother , everyone maybe would go thru the stages and experience it and later on will understood :)

  • roob

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    macha, good write up..
    is brother lizard the real udembe??

    anyway durai, what do you think of the phrase “you dont know me yet?” or in other words
    “onneke enniyer pathi teriyhathu” What is the real agenda behind this, perhaps after a few interviews, a good piece could possibly come up!

    This is one fucking phrase i hate to hear! Its not like ur a spy in disguise or a alavanthan…

    bro, u need sponsors, do you have a site hitcount?!

  • gobugovin

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    INDIANs MACHA;we have to put in mind that there is one TAMIL race n one human race.in one side AGHORIS,BEERS,scrifices BLOOD n SO ON ???l LET ME SHOW you THE TWO SIDE FACE.???when it comes to malay’s dainking they r fine or to prison but a INDIAN no body cares.THEY JUST DON’T CARE WHAT THE FUCK I CARE.THE SELLER IS GETTING RICH N RICHER that is one person but thousand INDIANS R DEAD ?? why can’t they HARAM the shop?WHO CARES FUCK THE INDIANS ?????????????????????? they just dont care off us.so y vote for any party?????

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    bro….nice post bro…tru indeed…rely agree bot it…

  • Small BOy!!!

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    finally somebody is writing about what i was goin through when i was a teenager this kind of people are totally pathetic!!! Hope they read this and learn.Great job brotha!!!

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    east to west Durai is the best and also kingfisher!

  • Durai

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    @lizard : Right ah sonne..

    @Vivek : Kandipa bro..hehe:)

    @Dhurga : Haha, you and your coffee is something I’m always remembering, that I have someone reading my blog as such.Make sure make me a cup if I come down there…ehee

    @Banu : Precisely ngge, I think you’ve summarized my article in a few liners.AGREE!

    @roob : I will think of something to write about that cha, seems like an interesting topic to discuss.

    Yes, I do have statcounters. Sponsors for what la cha?

    @surenkl : Ama bro, merah punya..strong..

    @Junio : Right bro:)

    @gobugovin : Huh?

    @prime g : :)

    @Small Boy : Haha, I understand it perfectly well then.

    @rujj : Itheke ore palemozhi ah bro…ore kingpisher vanggi thanggi bro..ena ningge…

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    ANNE, A HAPPY BIG BANG BIRTHDAY! MAY YOU GET MORE AND MORE DAY TO DAY EXPERIENCES THAT INSPIRES YOU TO WRITE MORE STUFF. HIDUP DURAI ANNE. =)

    dunno wer to post dis, thought dis post wil be d most apt one. cheerios =)

  • gobugovin

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    Is not the matter who’s the best get down to work . what the INDIANS must stop.??????????????????????????????????.IF we INDIANS think we can do it.how many maha’s have come n go but we r bad to ?.don’t let others to fuck around us…………I think fucking the INDIANS some feel………s nicccccccccccccccccceeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeee.

  • Nedu

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    Anne, I thought you quit blogging for good..even removed you blog link from my favorites list already.

    Good to see that youre back doing what you do best

  • Lanfear

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    Finally got to this post – and maiden comment on your blog. Only to say – anyone who can actually drink Kingfisher deserves a hats off from me. (Ok, maybe i am just a twit who cannot stomach most beers, and Kingfisher is a personal recipe for inviting purgatory the next day!)

    I am still trawling your archives, and I must say – regardless of whether i agree with your points of view or not – in general, i really do enjoy your writing.

    Cheers!

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    Bro…fater so long reading back your articles..and the best part you remain unique!!

    Hats off Bro!!

x

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