Runaway Meenachis

There are always times when you get raged over something, as much as you want to be practical solving an issue or problem. The past weekend was a busy day for me, and I just had to share with you this story, so that some of you; young girls will learn something from this.
I was in Seremban last Sunday when I received a panic call from my aunty that my cousin sister is nowhere to be found. She had left the house around 8 am on Saturday, and never returned until the next day. Her phone is switched off, and a quick check in her working place showed that she never turned up for work on Saturday. She had earlier claimed on Saturday that she is going to work to my aunt.
She is only 18.
With all the things going on with young girls nowadays, I couldn’t help thinking about the worst. She did not even bring her IC. I concluded she might have ran away from home, or been kidnapped by someone out there. I quickly called my cousin, and asked him to take my aunty to the nearest police station to make a report. Just in case.
After the report was made, and just when the search was about to happen, this girl returned home around 4 pm. My cousin called and informed me. She coolly walked in , and told my aunty that she had went out and couldn’t catch a bus to get back home, so she had stayed over her friends hostel. I asked my cousin to go and see her, and after some whacking from my cousin, she confessed going out and staying with her boyfriend in his hostel. Again, she is only 18.
The boyfriend; 19. Next my cousin called up the guy, and picked the guy up in his hostel, for interrogation; of course. I rushed all the way from Seremban because of this, and I told them not to beat this guy. When I reached, both the ‘perpetrators’ had been apprehended.
Of course, although I don’t beat girls, when it comes to my sisters, although I had always cared about her, this time it was no mercy. This time there was an exception, I beat her because of the following things:
1. For the trauma she had caused her parents.
2. For her daringness thinking that no one could question her and coolly walking inside the house the next day as if nothing had happened.
3. For the future embarrassment she will cause to my family and me if outsiders found out about this things.
4. For wasting my time, energy and money rushing all the way from Seremban just for this.
5. For delaying an article in this blog because I had to waste few days on this.
There you go, equals to 5 slaps I had given to her.
Now let me tell you the most fucked up story in the world. It made me look like a complete idiot listening to this story from the guy. First of all, I did not beat this guy and prohibited my cousin and friends from beating him because this guy was only 19, and this guy do not look like he can last a beating. He was tiny, and looked a complete bekke(lame).I told him that I will practically embarrass myself if I beat him.
I cried listening to the sufferings they both went through one day before. The couple actually went out to Times Square in KL , around afternoon. After watching a movie, they decided to go back. Unfortunately, when they reached Klang, it was already 8pm. Bus to Taman Sentosa(our place) was not available it seems. For your information, there is bus until 10pm. Fortunately, there was bus to go to Sri Muda, which is where the hostel of the guy is located.
So they collectively decided that they’ve got NO choice but to stay over in the guys hostel room.
What happened to your phone?
Battery died. Her phone battery also died.
But why didn’t you call from public phone?
We had no money.
Why the fuck do you bring a girl out if you don’t have money?
……*Silence….
Is it right to bring a girl outside at night and stay over without informing anything to her parents or anyone else?
….Wrong…*Silence… A slap and a ninja kick from my cousin who couldn’t hold it any longer.
The rest was history.
See, the only reason the guy was not beaten up beyond recognization because the fault actually lies within our family. She had the guts to go out with this guy and stay over without informing everyone, now that’s what I will call fucking stupid and pissed me off big time. The parents were the naive type, so they actually stopped us from beating the guy instead of making him a punching bag.
The guy is still studying and gets an allowance of RM450 per month. Now tell me girls, do you know why most of your brothers and parents disallow your relationship at early age?
Because most of you are fucking stupid bringing a macha who couldn’t even buy a meal for him. What crap are you talking about divine love and stuff? How many young Indian girls do we see running away from home every now and then? And why is it all the time when you run away; you actually find an asshole that will practically look like a beggar?
For years, I’ve been against relationship at young age, because you either get fucked and pregnant when you’re young itself, or you run away from home. How could anyone practically approve your relationship when both of you can’t even survive on your own? When you’re going to announce to the whole world that your boyfriend is this and that, make sure you know your boyfriend lives up to your claim.
Your parents raise you up for so many years, and after a few months in a relationship with some kattans out there, you forget your parents. You think your love is the best thing in the world. Remember that your love will not feed and pay your rent. Or buy you a car. Don’t come up with me with all the romantic stories in the world on how love had changed someone’s life. How many of you know people who had been in a relationship from a young age and survived until they get married? Isn’t it only a handful? The rest are fuckups.
If you’re indeed going to find a guy, look at him and think about your parents. Will they approve this guy? If you think they won’t approve this guy, then both of you do something in your own life first then go on with your relationship. Do something your parents will proud be proud of thinking of you.
Don’t find any rempit on the street, and bring back home and announce he is your life partner. Why waste your life like this? Which parents will be proud to have a son in law like that? So many young girls today start having relationship when they’re schooling and college, and so proud announcing it all over social networks, and when you see the guy; fuck man, you will know that this is a goner. Fucking study in your school, go to your college and get your certifications right, then start thinking about relationship. Get your guy right, make him someone your parents will accept and be proud of.
Keep your relationship if you have any; professional. No need to open up your pussy for your boyfriend. If he says dialogues like you don’t trust him, show your middle finger and ditch him. Trust in relationship is not defined by spreading up your pussy.
Now when some of your girls blame your parents and brothers for not approving your relationship, you’re seriously a stupid cunt. Why would your family be against your relationship if you find the right guy? Think.
Sit and think.

This is my opinion about relationship during young age, so don’t get worked up if it contradicts with yours.

There are always times when you get raged over something, as much as you want to be practical solving an issue or problem. The past weekend was a busy day for me, and I just had to share with you this story, so that some of you; young girls will learn something from this.

I was in Seremban last Sunday when I received a panic call from my aunty that my cousin sister is nowhere to be found. She had left the house around 8 am on Saturday, and never returned until the next day. Her phone is switched off, and a quick check in her working place showed that she never turned up for work on Saturday. She had earlier claimed on Saturday that she is going to work to my aunt.

She was only 18.

With all the things going on with young girls nowadays, I couldn’t help thinking about the worst. She did not even bring her IC. I concluded she might have ran away from home, or been kidnapped by someone out there. I quickly called my cousin, and asked him to take my aunty to the nearest police station to make a report. Just in case.

After the report was made, and just when the search was about to happen, this girl returned home around 4 pm. My cousin called and informed me. She coolly walked in , and told my aunty that she had went out and couldn’t catch a bus to get back home, so she had stayed over her friends hostel. I asked my cousin to go and see her, and after some whacking from my cousin, she confessed going out and staying with her boyfriend in his hostel. Again, she is only 18.

The boyfriend; 19. Next my cousin called up the guy, and picked the guy up in his hostel, for interrogation; of course. I rushed all the way from Seremban because of this, and I told them not to beat this guy. When I reached, both the ‘perpetrators’ had been apprehended.

Of course, although I don’t beat girls, when it comes to my sisters, although I had always cared about her, this time it was no mercy. This time there was an exception, I beat her because of the following things:

1. For the trauma she had caused her parents.

2. For her daringness thinking that no one could question her and coolly walking inside the house the next day as if nothing had happened.

3. For the future embarrassment she will cause to my family and me if outsiders found out about this things.

4. For wasting my time, energy and money rushing all the way from Seremban just for this.

5. For delaying an article in this blog because I had to waste few days on this.

There you go, equals to 5 slaps I had given to her.

Now let me tell you the most fucked up story in the world. It made me look like a complete idiot listening to this story from the guy. First of all, I did not beat this guy and prohibited my cousin and friends from beating him because this guy was only 19, and this guy do not look like he can last a beating. He was tiny, and looked a complete bekke(lame).I told him that I will practically embarrass myself if I beat him.

I cried listening to the sufferings they both went through one day before. The couple actually went out to Times Square in KL , around afternoon. After watching a movie, they decided to go back. Unfortunately, when they reached Klang, it was already 8pm. Bus to Taman Sentosa(our place) was not available it seems. For your information, there is bus until 10pm. Fortunately, there was bus to go to Sri Muda, which is where the hostel of the guy is located.

So they collectively decided that they’ve got NO choice but to stay over in the guys hostel room.

What happened to your phone?

Battery died. Her phone battery also died.

But why didn’t you call from public phone?

We had no money.

Why the fuck do you bring a girl out if you don’t have money?

……*Silence….

Is it right to bring a girl outside at night and stay over without informing anything to her parents or anyone else?

….Wrong…*Silence… A slap and a ninja kick from my cousin who couldn’t hold it any longer.

The rest was history.

See, the only reason the guy was not beaten up beyond recognition was because the fault actually lies within our family. She had the guts to go out with this guy and stay over without informing everyone, now that’s what I will call fucking stupid and pissed me off big time. The parents were the naive type, so they actually stopped us from beating the guy instead of making him a punching bag.

The guy is still studying and gets an allowance of RM400 per month. Now tell me girls, do you know why most of your brothers and parents disallow your relationship at early age?

Because most of you are fucking stupid bringing a macha who couldn’t even buy a meal for him. What crap are you talking about divine love and stuff? How many young Indian girls do we see running away from home every now and then? And why is it all the time when you run away; you actually find an asshole that will practically look like a beggar?

For years, I’ve been against relationship at young age, because you either get fucked and pregnant when you’re young itself, or you run away from home. How could anyone practically approve your relationship when both of you can’t even survive on your own? When you’re going to announce to the whole world that your boyfriend is this and that, make sure you know your boyfriend lives up to your claim.

Your parents raise you up for so many years, and after a few months in a relationship with some kattans out there, you forget your parents. You think your love is the best thing in the world. Remember that your love will not feed and pay your rent. Or buy you a car. Don’t come up with me with all the romantic stories in the world on how love had changed someone’s life. How many of you know people who had been in a relationship from a young age and survived until they get married? Isn’t it only a handful? The rest are fuckups.

If you’re indeed going to find a guy, look at him and think about your parents. Will they approve this guy? If you think they won’t approve this guy, then both of you do something in your own life first then go on with your relationship. Do something your parents will be proud thinking of you. And start respecting your parents!

A perfect wrong example of respect towards elders.

Don’t find any rempit on the street, and bring back home and announce he is your life partner. Why waste your life like this? Which parents will be proud to have a son in law like that? So many young girls today start having relationship when they’re schooling and college, and so proud announcing it all over social networks, and when you see the guy; fuck man, you will know that this is a goner. Fucking study in your school, go to your college and get your certifications right, then start thinking about relationship. Get your guy right, make him someone your parents will accept and be proud of.

Keep your relationship if you have any; professional. No need to open up your pussy for your boyfriend. If he says dialogues like you don’t trust him, show your middle finger and ditch him. Trust in relationship is not defined by spreading up your pussy.

Now when some of your girls blame your parents and brothers for not approving your relationship, you’re seriously a stupid cunt. Why would your family be against your relationship if you find the right guy? Think.

Sit and think.


50 comments to Runaway Meenachis

  • vishnu

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    ___/\___ yeppa da olaichedheke palan kadaicherekhe ;D

  • kechik

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    “Trust in relationship is not defined by spreading up your pussy.”

    dude,you’re a philosopher,do you realise tat?

  • Nav_yakuza

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    Durai.. i noe its wrong to laugh at this post.. but i reali cant stand on this one bro… “A slap and a ninja kick from my cousin who couldn’t hold it any longer…” i reali laugh my ass out bro!! hahaha… nice one bro… hope those bitches and those cocksuckers will get ur mesej bro!

  • gowri sangkari

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    a very good lesson indeed…& s good laugh…!!!!

  • ALLANO

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    “And why is it all the time when you run away; you actually find an asshole that will practically look like a beggar?” BRo…diz is very fuckin true..!! haha.. A very good lesson indeed. Sometimes it’s the smallest decisions that can change your life forever.

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    Ironically, my friend’s sister too ran away from home and she was from Seremban. Awesome post. I’ll make sure my friend reads this.

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    So true. These people should realise that in reality LOVE is not like how they defined in tamil movies. Where they can go live in a jungle and buy a cow and sell the milk and they live happy. WTF!? If in real life you do that, either the lion will come and eat you, or you will die out of starvation or the army will catch you becuase they think you are a terrorist! Nansense!!

  • LB

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    Partner, can do me a favour, can ask that ‘mangga chutney bf’, why didnn’t they charge his handphone when the reached the hostel and make a call to inform your cousin’s parents? Then slap him on my behalf =)

    One thing i know, the more we ‘reject’ their love, the ‘stronger’ it gets, who to blame? Tamil movie and dramas, main reason why my father never allowed tamil movies at home (ok,he didn’t understand tamil to begin with). Nowdays, it’s all about how parents reject their ‘love’ and some how this gives them more reasons to be together, until pussy gets loose then it’s another different story.

    I have a cousin who secretly had a handphone and was hiding and communicating to the ‘bf’, her own sister whacked her and confiscated her handphone many times, and that guy kept buying her new handphone (thumbs up for my cousin for finding a rich boy or maybe a snatch thieve, we’ll find out soon), anyways she came over to my house for holidays and i used reverse psychology, i gave her an option, i will help her study and all she had to do was study 2 hours a day, she can pick the hours and i will allow her to use the phone for 1 minute for every question that she got right with her homework, who would have thought, she actually started studying and she got to talk to her ‘bf’, the relationship wasn’t forbidden and eventually they got bored of each another cause there wasn’t any thrill left of getting caught, as i’m typing this, her phone is ringing and she says ‘aiyoo, why god gave the idea to mankind to create phone, so annoying la’

    In conclusion, when we were young ourselves, we had this stupid mentality to do things that were forbidden, like adam and eve, it’s mankind’s nature, give the freedom and they eventually get bored of their ‘master plan’.

  • Shax

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    “If he says dialogues like you don’t trust him, show your middle finger and ditch him. Trust in relationship is not defined by spreading up your pussy.”
    two thumbs up Durai..dont be surprised if u change a gurl frm bad to good just by this post…Keep it up!!

  • RedKuranguKing

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    Reality is blurred in the eyes of Indian girls from all the Tamil Movies, anna.

    In the movies: the guy would be a lowlife without a job n stuff. The girl will be from a good family. after a Crappy storyline, they fall in love. then the girls parent object to it. but the guy still fights his in-laws to get the girl and eventually the young lovers win.

    In reality: 13 year old girl sees guy sitting in a bus stop. after they two flirt (naaye vide kevalama) for about 2 minutes, the girl says she’s in love with the guy. Then when the parents try to talk, or in alternate methods, slap some sense into the young girl; she rebels and runs away with the guy. A few months later she returns home in rags and with a belly bigger than her dad’s belly, and crying and looking for sympathy. what happened to her lover? He took off as soon as soon as he had his fill.

    TThe advise you gave in the last few paragraphs are really good ones, anna. HOPEFULLY, the Tamil Girls read this and realize.

  • RoyalPain

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    :) its really good to have brothers…:)

  • SumSingh69///

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    bro wat movie tey watched in times square
    5 slaps..
    supoz 2 giv 6 la bro..
    if tey watched a romantic mvie..coz sureli tey gonna hold hands..haha
    no offence..
    u was supoz 2 kambu d bambu macha..tats wat il do..

  • Sashikumar Muniandy

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    wonder what they were doin in the guy’s hostel..9 months kalichi teriyum bro…methicheh savve adikinum ivenghellam~

  • Sri D Bo55

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    wow.. mind blowing ……. =D … nice one bro….

  • savundra

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    awesome post bro!!!!
    i juz love it!!!!!
    n bro do me the same favor LB wanted.. even i was wonderin abt the same thing!
    “Trust in relationship is not defined by spreading up your pussy.”is ma fav!!

  • Kokku Saare

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    Lots of similar cases la bro.. That is why, we as brothers are protecting our sisters for the sake of our family’s dignity..

  • KR - DaIndianRaider

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    Durai abang na summava, anna naa inthe topic eh patti sollelanu irrunthe, ninggeleh SEAL break pannitinggeh :) rite-eh!

  • ruffles

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    what a prick bruv. bt as you said, both of them are to be blamed. only indians in msia would pull off this sort of stunt. bloody hell.

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    gosh, hope ur cousin is all rite.. n hope dat dood learnt his lesson.

  • P. Prasad

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    While I’m not condoning what your cousin did, I can’t say I approve of how you handled the situation. There is NEVER a situation when you can hit a woman – justifying it by saying it was because she brought ‘shame to the family’ is only a few steps away from an honour killing.

    The fact remains that they were two consenting adults, and if they did have sex – if they used protection, how is it your business? The worry she caused her parents by going missing and her nonchalant attitude to being questioned is probably a symptom of immaturity – but to assault her for it?

    In the Western world, the neighbours would have called the police and you’d have faced a judge and an angry public because the press would have covered a case involving such disgraceful behaviour. To hide behind the old chestnut, “This is our culture” is a sorry excuse to impose your personal beliefs on an unwilling person.

    There is always talk about certain types of behaviour that embarrass the Malaysian Indian community – having a bunch of men beat up a girl and her boyfriend while the neighbours hear screaming, crying and yelling from your home – how is that not an embarrassment to our people?
    Contrast that to two consenting adults sharing an intimate moment in private – it is something no one sees or has to know about.

    I’ll end by hoping that there weren’t any women cheering you on in this comments list.

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      I agree with P.Prasad and in fact it contradicts with your earlier statement that you will not lay your hands on a female. And Yes, staying out for a day without informing the family is plain dumb, that shows how immature the girl is. You should have talked to her about the consequences of her action rather than smacking her. Hitting will discipline a person but it will not make them realize the mistake. This is sooo Tamil movie like, i just hope she wouldn’t runaway for good.

    • Durai

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      Apologies in advance for I have behaved like a barbarian who had in fact in your own point of view bring shame to Indians .Now say you both have an 18 year old sister.

      Can I bring her out, in fact sneak her out tomorrow early morning, stay with her in my rented house, and return her to your family the next day, perhaps around afternoon once I’m ‘done’? You can also assume we’re in ‘love’ with each other.

      About the protection part, I’ll think about it; see if I can afford some condoms. Meanwhile, for 1 whole day, you and your family can lodge a police report and start panicking on what happened to your sister.

      I’ll fully co-operate just like how Banu have said to ‘sit down and talk’ with you. I have no concern whatsoever if you want to sit down and talk with your sister though.

      Once you’re done advising some craps to me, I’ll bring her out another day and screw her again, and return her the next day to you. Meanwhile, Ms Banu, you can ‘sit down and talk’ with your sister on the consequences of her actions. She is 18, and what we both do, I mean our intimate sessions should not be of your business. Perhaps after a few sessions, I’ll get bored with her, then I’ll pass the number around , saying that the brother and her family members are so sporting ‘leh’, they will only sit down and talk to you if you screw their sisters up.

      Forgive my upbringing being influenced heavily by Indian culture, for I consider an attitude like that deserves a few slaps (at the least). Have you not seen in the article clearly that she had received enough attention and care during her upbringing? If that does not make her realize what she was doing is wrong, then what I and my cousin did WILL do.

      “Adikireh kaithan anaikum. Nee anechi kithe irunthina, ureh vanthe menjithe poirum un sister eh”.

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        You got me wrong Mr.Durai,
        the ‘sit and talk’ part is for the sister. How sure are you that she will not do that again?It happened to my aunt, you know. She was 18 when she was caught going out with some guy, she got whacked and after few days she made a police report against her father and my father (who is her brother) that they abused her because they are against her love life. She then runaway and never returned home.

        What I am saying is ,there is an amicable way to solve that problem. The issue here is, the immaturity of the sister to think that whatever she is doing now is right. Its up to you ,how you want to handle that, I just gave my point of view. And , Yes i have sisters too and i will not handle it they way you did.

        ‘Kandippa irukelam saare, aana adichithaan kandippa irukenum ne avesiyem ille’

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    P. Prasad: I get what you mean, but as a woman myself, I don’t blame Durai and his cousin brother for raising hands on this girl. Everyone has different way of approaching and disciplining someone, and to me, this girl deserves it. She didn’t bother about making her family members worried. She “cooly walked in like nothing happened.” Makes me think twice if she would bother listening if someone were to sit down and patiently explain.

    The couple clearly were aware of their actions. Thoonguravanae ezhuppalam.. Thoonguramathiri act pannuravangala “THATTI” elupanum.. Athu thaan namma Durai anna pannathu.. LOL

    Some people don’t appreciate the care and concern their parents give them. They take it as irritating, annoying etc etc. They’ll only realise their mistakes when

    1) One day their loved ones are no more and they’re alone in this word.. And no one actually cares if they’re dead or alive

    2) When they b’come parents and see their daughters being taken advantage of.

    —-

    God bless these people.. Hopefully they’ll learn and change for the better.

  • RoyalPain

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    I cannot totally agree with P.Prasad …because sad to say in this case they were not acting like adults..Firstly the girl was really trying to fool her parents..she lied to them (obviously the “i missed the bus” story is a “made up” one)..if she had admitted that she went out with her boyfriend and apologies to her parents before “Durai” and “Cousin Bro” took action…i would call her an adult..In my opinion Durai should not hit his sister…but its really easy for us say that it is wrong to hit a women because this girl is not our sister…imagine how “Durai” and “Cousin Bro” would have felt when they found out their own sister that they love and took care of so well did something so shameful(well if you don’t consider this shameful I’ve got no comments for you).Try to feel how emotional a normal brother would have been..The anger that he might feel in that situation would really take control in that situations…and i can imagine 5 slaps on the face would have surely made her look a little swollen on the face for a week and it must have surely hurt her physically and mentally ….hemmm …but…lets just look at it like a cane punishment given in the prison(of course the cane punishment is much severe and its for criminals)…but the bottom line is i dont wish to see this as a violation of human rights but as an emotional punishment given by a caring and loving brother….and im sure Durai or any of their family members would have sat and talk to this girl… after all this girl is none other than their own blood…”Family knows best”….

  • LB

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    First thing first, let’s not get carried away with our thoughts of how we play a role in how someone brings up their child, I’m speaking in general, if there was anyone to be blame for the ‘freedom’ and ‘courage’ the girl had, it will be the parents. I have such a fear and respect to my family that even now, i call back to inform my family if I’m gonna be late, that’s the first thing a kid should be taught. With that said, i believe only the parents should solve this problem, non of us have the right to have a say on this.

    Second, regardless of it being a female or male, no human being has the rights to raise their hand to anyone, GOD gave us hand to feed and to be fed, to work, it wasn’t given to cause hurt to any mankind. Nothing bring solution as best as words, where do you think war started from? Our body is a temple, on a loan from GOD, which mankind has the power to hit,kill or cause injury to another mankind?

    Will the men in my family not raise their hands if this situation happened in my family? They did, and it led into my cousin sister running away with the guy(who was married at that time to someone else) in the middle of the night, returning 5 years later with 2 kids and a husband who wasn’t making enough to feed them and no proper papers for the kids to go to school.

    The same cousin i mentioned in another comment was hit by many of my family members, the fact that she had a HP, did she stop using the phone? Every single hit made her ‘love’ stronger, the power of tamil movie but some how she doesn’t like having a phone now, why, cause someone made an effort to see the situation from her point of view.

    What i said is merely for the good of the girl, not Durai, not myself, nor anyone else. I am not a parent so it will be easy to point the finger towards the parents but raising a hand doesn’t solve anything and I’m saying it out of experience, when you do bad, you need to figure it out yourself, when other’s play a role, you learn nothing.

    If she did have sex, if she does get pregnant, she would be afraid to turn to her own family for help in fear of getting hit, that’s when things turn bad.

    With all that said, it’s a family issue, it shouldn’t be made public and if it, let’s try to respect each another’s rights to speak and hopefully someone out there learns something from this.

    • AN

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      I agree with the gist of what you said LB, violence gets us nowhere. Physical or emotional abuse does the opposite of its intent most of the time. All you achieve by doing such things is to create fear or contempt. I admit, it works sometimes; but most of the time all it does is create an “us” vs “them” mindset. It affirms your childs core believe that you can and/or will never understand them. A parent shouldn’t be feared or hated, they should be respected!
      I also agree that the burden of the situation lies with the parents. We always feel that raising our children in a bubble keeps them away from all the ‘bad’ in the world. Thats is almost never the case. Children need to know why what they do is wrong not just the fact that its wrong. Explain to them why things are wrong but also leave the door open so even if they make those mistakes, they can approach you with it.
      I am not saying don’t punish them for mistakes; punishment is important(not the physical kind of course), but make sure they know they’re getting punished for a very good reason. Always remember there is no fool-proof way to keeping your children out of trouble. Isn’t it better that your child approaches you when their in trouble than someone else with far worse judgement?
      Just my two cents.

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    SOME SERIOUS SHIT EVERYONE GOTTA AGREE WITH IT….
    “Keep your relationship if you have any; professional. No need to open up your pussy for your boyfriend. If he says dialogues like you don’t trust him, show your middle finger and ditch him. Trust in relationship is not defined by spreading up your pussy.”

    GIRLS,PLEASE SHOW SOME RESPECT TO OUR CULTURE…ITS SUMTHIN TO BE BLAMED AT BOTH GENDERS BUT SERIOUSLY,THINK BOUT IT…DONT ACT LIKE A PROSTITUTE…U CAN GO AROUND AND BLAME THE GUYS,BUT U KNOW WAT,A GUY CANT DO A SHIT IF U WOULDNT GIVE HIM THE APPROVAL…I DONT CARE IF ITS SOME MALAY OR CHINESE BITCHES….
    FOR GOD SAKE,THINK BEFORE COMMITING INTO ANYTHING….

  • MAYA

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    @P.Prasad… & any other quick to attack…

    How very wrong you are…There is definitely justification for raising your hand to a woman, ESPECIALLY in today’s world.

    Family values, trust & loyalty are fast flying out of the window, with modern ideas & young people thinking they can do as they please & totally disrespect their elders.

    Why do these young people think they are so gifted & talented & that they know better than their parents, who have lived twice as many years as they? There has to be restrictions, limits, rules in any society.

    Even in the animal kingdom, there are rules to be obeyed, rules taught by the mother to her young & should these rules be broken & the young ones disobey, they are punished accordingly, using pain. Do you ever see a lioness sitting down with her cub & ‘talking’ to him when he has disobeyed & stepped out of line, perhaps endangering his own safety??? NO! – the young lion would be severely admonished, using the language ALL species understands – a swift, sharp swipe with a heavy claw!

    Years ago, a parent would chastise their kids at home, the teacher would keep them in check at school & the Police would control them on the streets. These days, NONE of the above is entitled to properly punish these kids – & OH, is the end result so very damning?! Young people of the Western world are largely lost, with no morals, no beliefs & no real sense of gratitude to parents or pride in who they are/what they do.

    You are a prime example of ignorance, quoting Western values & stupid Western laws. The whole world today KNOWS why this simply does not work – look at the rocketing crime rates in the United Kingdom alone, for example. Today’s culture of ‘softly softly’ is all wrong & the amount of jobless kids with criminal records, displaced by their families, with ASBOS (Anti-Social Behaviour Orders dished out by the Courts) just proves that the system has failed.

    What I speak of above is just the mess the West has created for itself in its own backyard, through its liberal attitudes & lack society – let alone what it is doing to the rest of the world, poking its nose in on other cultures it fails to understand or agree with & waging War on an country who dares to stand against it.

    This young Indian girl knew full well what her parents/family’s wishes were – & she BLATANTLY chose to go against that. How DARE SHE?! I would fully uphold & support Durai & his family in the punishment they rightfully meted out. As for whether this cheeky bastard guy was ‘tiny’ or not – I would have wrung his scrawny neck for dishonouring my family name – he also knew PRECISELY what he was doing & thought he could get away with it! The loser doesn’t even have the intelligence to get a good story ready. So with a quick Ninja kicking & a few slaps, I would say he was damn lucky!

    Before you or any other modernised do-gooders leap to disrespect this culture, I say put your OWN HOUSE in order first. Sort your own affairs & keep your own counsel, make sure YOU are doing right yourself. As it says in the Bible, ‘SPARE THE ROD, SPOIL THE CHILD’ – this was God declaring to us that young people NEED strong discipline, for their OWN GOOD.

    As for your final comment, stating “I’ll end by hoping that there weren’t any women cheering you on in this comments list”….THINK AGAIN MY FRIEND…

    I am an English woman, resident in the United Kingdom. I have raised four children (who are all grown up now, with no lasting scars from physical discipline & all gainfully employed/at University). I myself also worked as a Police Officer & Store Detective, so I do not speak lightly or out of lack of knowledge or fact.

    @Durai…Interesting post, I very much enjoyed it, thank you. I will email you privately tomorrow.

  • Inba

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    A closed door interview exposed between me n an average Runaway Meenachi(RM):

    Me: Your dream guy?
    RM: My bf (eventually the machan)

    Me: Your dream car?
    RM: EX-5 Series (its the bike.. not the Beamer)

    Me: Your dream job?
    RM: I dun have to work, my bf will give the money.

    Me: Ok. Wat’s he working as?
    RM: No no. Now he studying only. But he will work.

    Me: So ur bf is only a student now and you’re up for him. Dun u think it’s risky?
    RM: No. Coz he loves me…

    Me: Dun u read in the internet bout gals getting cheated?
    RM: Haah! Internet! I read Facebook. I read his 1 n he read my 1…

    FTW!!

    Me: Your future plans?
    RM: We gng to different town n get married…

    Me: U’re running away??
    RM: No! We just gng to different town…

    Me: Ur parents know bout this?
    RM: Actually i wanna tell… but my fon no credit… and his fon neva charge…

    Me: Wer r u rushing??
    RM: I need to go.. He is waiting for me in his EX-5 Series!! Hehe (excited face).. Bless me for my future!!

    Me: Govinda Gooovinda!!
    RM: Hehe.. Thank u.. Bye2!!

  • sha

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    first of all i wud say that im totally agree with durai anna’s action.. he at least stopped wit 5 slaps, if its me in his place means i wud have poisoned my sis.. i dun need such person in the family is she dont bother abt the family and give importance to her ‘vennai bf and her venggayam love’…

    p.prasad and Banu… im quite surprise with ur comments for this topic…r u a REAL INDIAN??????? if ur in western country and ur used to the culture then fine..do not bring it over here… what durai anna did is absolutely right… adi uthavara mathiri yethuvum uthavathu… she deserve it…

    as u said Banu… ‘sit n talk’.. if she did it without knowing the consequences that she might face n might bring to her fmly means, we cn consider abt it… but 4m what durai anna has wrote, ‘She coolly walked in , and told my aunty that she had went out and couldn’t catch a bus to get back home, so she had stayed over her friends hostel’, i dont think so she wasnt aware of what she doing…. everything is well planned perfectly…so she deserved the punishment that she gt..

    she is 18.. not 8yrs old baby… she might have heard abt this or even read abt such cases in newspapers or internet…we are not a stupid to believe all her lies..do u still u want to defend her??? ubadesam uruke na easy but naamaku ne varum bothe reaction totally vera mathiri irukum…

    if she is a gud gal and can think rationally… she is 18 so definately she can.., she wud have call her parents or even her brother to cme and fetch her home maybe with de same reason..MISSED THE BUS’.. why dont she do that???..it is not necessary 4 her to stay with a guy in guy’s hostel… HOW DARE SHE????

    “And why is it all the time when you run away; you actually find an asshole that will practically look like a beggar?”….. i really like this line…nowdays love seem very cheap… even if u have any sexual interest on someone oso u named it ‘LOVE’…. enna kodumai sir ithu…
    ‘evergalum assingam paderathu pathellane unmaiyana kadhalaiyum assingga padetheranngal…’

    anyway nice topic anna… abt ur cousin sis…make her realize her mistakes staying with a guy de whole night… enuf of hitting n beating.. show her what will happen if she follow everything that she think is right.. let her see things with her own eyes.. then she will start to think which way should she follow.. as ur protecting ur sis u have to make sure she learn something valuable from her mistake..

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    Durai,

    Though this is an interesting discussion, i feel what should have been the focus to is, Preventive Measures & Exposure to avoid the scenario you just come to share.

    Though the family has raised the gal with care and love, yet why did this happen? what went wrong if care and love has been shown ?

    I have continuoly raised my children by exposing them to the forbidden and explaining to them the consequences of their actions. They have been briefed and taken on a pratical journey which exposed them to the truth of rebelious behaviour.

    Which then i progressively tracked their behaviour and put them on a stick & carrot regime [though they did not realize my actions as i imposed it subtly to their daily lives]. My children grew over the years thinking sensibly and openly sharing explicit questions and scenarios which i have embraced. Please forgive me for this quote “indian parents normally shrug away from this topic” leaving the children to be exposed to learnning curve from external sources which leaves room for such scenarios.

    My children have grown to be mature young adults, stricking the right balance of understanding the cause and effect of their behaviours, i would confidently and proudly say that my children twin boys and twin gals have grown up to be attractive young adults, and my gals could have easily been whisked away by young hormonally raging young boys but to my surprise it did not……what happened was to the contrary they spoke about it to me and my wife first, which we felt it was only fair for us to trust them and allow them to continue on the continous life learning cycle to explore themself.

    i would go on and on about this but again im afraid this would divert from your original concern. Lets ensure our children are raised in an enviroment where it allows them to experience life naturally without forcing ideas of love and care unto them.

    P/S: i understand and respect your views but i urge everyone to start thinking how you could have failed towards your child for he or her to behave in such a manner. By understanding the why, the answers to everything else comes.

    :I was a child who grew in klang / kl for many years of my life with a playboy father who drank and gambled away his earnings which then forced me and my brothers to do many things we were not proud of. Our mother left us to fend for ourselves as she could could not afford to raise, educate or feed us leaving us on the streets. These were painful times of my life which i will never move on from.

    :I have since relocated myself outside malaysia, and a regular internet surf brought me to your blog page. Kudos onto your attempt to break the taboo and keep moving forward.

  • Prasad_V

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    I don’t view Durai’s slaping of his sister as a guy slap woman issue at all. As a matter of fact Durai is her elder brother and she is his younger sister.
    if it were me, I would not hit a woman too, but my description stops there and then only.
    i would not slap my baby sister or baby brother (for that matter) if I view them as strangers. In an orthodox & intelligent indian family-I view family as an extremely important tie and I have every rights to use whatever means or ways i may find useful in attempting to instill moral values into my brother and sister.
    I would not lay my hands on a woman or girl I do not know, for the simple fact of respect and the even-more-simple-fact of I DON’T GIVE A FLYING F##K EVEN IF SHE ROTS IN HELL. But if my sister was to behave in the way Durai’s sister had behaved, and take her parents for granted, then believe me a small tap on her cheeks can make her realize that you’re not to take naive parents for granted. I commit this so called “offence” of slapping my sister only because I’m her brother, and i love her more than what any other stranger who feels he has an opinion on it; could care about.
    If the girl in question was a boy and he was my little brother, who committed an offence, I would do the same too. its a family things guys, you hit your children when they do something wrong, but only you know for real that you didn’t mean to hurt them or murder them, you’re just trying to correct them.
    Not all parents hold a PHD in psychology to spend 10 years trying to first understand their children’s mind set and give therapy and slow talk to them when they have misdemeanors.

    I got whacked from my mom like there was no tomorrow, and I turned out perfectly well (or maybe almost). I know my mom loves me even if she whacks me, and I’m glad I was brought up that way, coz I’ve clearly seen kids who were raised without a single whacking-in fact there is a name for those species. BRATs

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    this type of gals deserve the whacking than talking to them nicely. I dont think they care for “who couldn’t even buy a meal” boyfrens.

  • realist

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    whacking or slapping may satisfy our anger & frustation but does it have any impact on the person in question? For such people the heart(desire) is controlling the mind.Every slap may increase the desire to be with the person whom they believe will give them love unless they get sudden wisdom.

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    I’m down wit u bro

    and i love the way u handle the situation

    but i still will slap dat guy just for the fuck of it

  • jamuna

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    At times I wonder, are these girls that brainless or uneducated or insane? Why on earth do they even choose “boyfriends” who cant even fend for themselves?
    Did the parents go wrong in their upbringing? Or was it the wrong group of friends?
    -Love, sex, lust and so on are all part and parcel of life but there is a timeline for everything…Why not study, and be successful in life first before even taking a step into the above mentioned matters? This applies to both guys and girls. There is nothing more important in life other than education, and a successful career when you are young.

  • mimisha

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    Mr Durai, i really salute u for the topic……young gals out thr, please open up ur mind instead of open up ur heart and pussy …………… :)

  • ramesh naidu

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    bro..there is also another issue here..most indian parents..once they hear the word love..they behave as if its rape..n go all NO NO to it..just like in the indian movies..i mean..i have seen such cases before..due to this many young people hide n do all this fucking shit..

    • Brandie Storm

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      It’s worry, bro. Worried that she fell for the wrong guy. 98% of the time vapid girls do exactly that – fall for the wrong guy and make a complete mess of herself.

      So when her parents hear of a boyfriend – the alarm rings loud as Zeus’ thunder.

      Who is this guy? Is he a thug? Taruh jampi ka? Is he from a good family? Is he educated? Is he well-off? And the list goes on. It’s fear hiding shyly behind immense love.

  • arfanosi

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    this can be a problem. as Parent has said above, prevention is better than cure. my li’l sis is only form 1 so I hope I don’t have to worry about this for a long time but I have started doing things to make her more prepared.

    Indian parents are quite conservative about these topics and they don’t take the time to talk about this to their daughters. But I know that if family don’t talk about this they will find out from other places, this is just the world we live in today. so I have tried to brainwash her to be against all these negative elements of indian society today (like all this running away, love with gangsters etc). This sounds like I’m manipulating her, and it’s true: I am. but i’m doing it with her interests at heart and really in this age aren’t we all being manipulated by friends, politicians, media etc. Also, I did this sibtly and used the best tool: LOGIC and the TRUTH. luckily, she’s quite intelligent and she can think about this.

    I felt I did my job as a brother when I was watching a video about gangster on this blog and she said “why are those people fighting in school, they’re just spoiling Indian people’s name in public” and when I was reading about a girl running away to marry her bf in thestaronline she looked over my shoulder and said “the girl never finish form 5 and the boy is a dropout, they cannot find any job like this, how can they want to marry”

  • ben yap

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    you shouldn’t go assault the boy even though your cousin sister stayed overnight with him. it takes 2 to tango. also, stop taking laws into your own hands.

    be more matured a bit.

  • Sam

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    WOW…very intersting topic. Debateable. This is not a question of teenagers spanding time in the hostel or no money to even take care of themselves. At this age dating is very common. This is a question of bad parenting and family not spending quality time together that is why these thinngs happen. the poor girl spending the night in the hostel does not mean she is sperading her legs. I feel sorry for her and the guy for being mishandled. What kind of message are we sending to our siblings and children. eventually they will be so pissed of with the decision that has been taken and they will never return the next time around. Is this what we want.To writh this on a blog is even more embarrassing, than spending the night in the hostel. Sapping the the girl is already very wrong…Parents should have thought you never to touch a woman or embarass them in public. i wont be suprised within the next few months or years …she will just leavce you guys and just run away. Parents teach them from young, love them. Teach them what is right and wrong not by scolding, by guiding them. Respect them.

  • Moe

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    I am a woman and I went through this about 15 years ago thinking that love was all that and I could practically feed myself with “Love”, going to the bank and exchanging it for cash. I let my parents down and my father, being a half-Indian, hot tempered man, nicely gave me the beating and slapping of my life and did it “wake” me up. I am now happily married to a respectable man whom my parents, especially my father, idolize and look up to with a 4yo daughter and another baby on the way. If in any way that my daughter commits the same mistake that I did before, I will not hesitate to give her a nice tight slap across the face and so will her father. As much as we both love our daughter with all our hearts, the fact that she thinks that pulling a stunt like this is okay and behaves nonchalently about it, only shows how much she respects us and cares for our feelings yet alone being able to feel responsible for her actions. Not only that, the consequences reflects poorly on how bad our parenting skills are particularly the mother (in Chinese, the mother somehow always gets the blame for their child’s bad behaviour i.e : Eh! Your mother never teach you ah??!!)

    So yes, she deserves a slap and so did that silly scrawny udang kering guy of hers.

  • Ratha

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    A good read. No gals should fall in love with a person by weighing his pocket or look in general but attitude and character does count!If he brings you out,he should be responsible enough to send you back home!!!What culture we are talking about here-overnight with bf?So when you have your own kid, is it ok also if your daughter stray out with bf and stay overnight with bf?IF that is ok, please don’t have kids at all.If its not ok than what happening nowadays by the name of relationship is wrong as well!Dont blame your family when they take it on you.No noble act have been punished here with slap..

  • Ugalisha

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    This issue is actually nothing new..Iv got friends who has done the same to their family. Some even using the “i will run away if u dun approve” line to threaten their family. Iv come across a 16 year old girl who got pregnant and when through an abortion without her parents knowledge. But who do we blame? the girls? the guys? the family? the society? the list can go on forever if u ask me. In the end of the day it comes down to the values and principles that one has. Its sad seeing girls disrespecting themselves when there are ladies out there fighting and demanding for equal respect. One should respect one self before one can be respected. As for how the issue was handled, well if it was me, it would have been more than 5 slaps for sure..you were far too kind Mr Durai.

  • laughingsohardicried

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    i think too that you were far too kind mr.durai… how dare she behave like that to her naive parents?? already buat salah, nak mengada lagi! atleast could have informed the parents when she got busted (aka missed the bus) so as to save the hassle of police reports… im no saint, i have done similar things before. but if i had gotten myself in the same situation, i would rather have exposed myself and save my parents the worry of thinking their child got raped/murdered/dead etc2… and such naive parents at that. love at that age is not wrong, probably the student is a good guy. probably. but they have been dumb, very dumb, and the girl, no need to say lah. too many cases in my childhood have opened my eyes so that i do not become another runaway statistic: my aunt (though the guy is keeping her well), my primary schoolmate who ranaway in form 1 and came back pregnant with the so called husband in jail because he slashed someone (the parents got her aborted and recently she remarried, mind you, this girl had 5 A in upsr!!!), my another primary schoolmate (though she is also happily married now), secondary schoolmate (used up as FOC prostitute for 5 long years by her playboy bf, got pregnant twice and suffered from self-induced abortion-she could have died, and who knows? probably having all kinds of sexually transmitted diseases) and the recent, one who has a gangster as a bf, ranaway with him without knowing that he is a renowned gangster and he sold her off as a prostitute in malaysia to his cronies. she was forced to have sex at the age of 16 with multiple men per day, no need to tell the treatment she suffered at the hands of this barbarians. ran away once and they caught her and gave her a sound thrashing. the second time she succeeded and then sought treatment for her infection down there. (fyi: its a wart, something like a growth i guess, the size of an average Cameron broccoli growing from down there. the doctors had to give her sedation and operate in OT to remove that thing. the list goes on and on…. one day soon, hopefully i will be able to make a documentary with volunteers on all these true stories… and screen it in all schools!!!

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